I have a Schecter on the way (total impulse buy ) and to be honest I don't like the extra tension for my style of playing, and I don't like 09s either. I've been a D'addario user for a long time and I'm quite happy with them, so I haven't experimented much with strings.
So I thought about tension differences between brands and wondered if it's THAT noticeable. I remember DRs being kinda loose, but that's about it. So it would be cool to know which brands have tighter/looser strings so I can figure out a good balance in tension.
Elixirs Nanowebs, for some reason have more tension than other non-coated strings that are same exact same gauges. a set of Elixir .10s for example feels more like 10.5s to me . i like the added tension though, and the strings just sound and feel incredible too.
a set of Elixir Nanoweb .9s might be just what you're looking for. i believe D'Addario also make some "in between" string gauges too.