As a guitarist/drummer I use an Electric kit. A variety of sounds at a fraction of the volume.
Does anybody own or play a Roland kit and can you explain your custom patches? I Might make a 'Double Kick' set which actually has a nice ringy snare and some nice splash/chinas, and certainly none of that 'Wash of reverb over the doublekick that sounds like a thousand kicks'.
Wish I could help you. I briefly had the "toy" Roland kit that fits in a corner, but that's as close as I got. If I ever get out of this fucking shitty apartment I live in with the thin floors and walls, I'm definitely getting a proper electronic kit, even if I'll never be the next Marco Minnemann.